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A Message From The Reigning Way Golf Tournament Champion

All Proceeds from The Turkey 2012 Golf Tournament benefit a Christ centered alcohol and drug recovery center in Huntsville called The Way. It’s a really fun tournament especially with the Turkey Ball competition in addition to the traditional scramble. With the help of a few ringers through the years, Hilde and I have put together the winning team for the first two years back to back. So, in a way, I am issuing a little bit of a challenge.

As you can see from this picture, the Turkey Trophy has a very prominent place in my office…overseeing every meeting I conduct. In fact, I think my business is up something like 20% since we started winning in 2010. Something about that big beautiful bird sitting right there on the meeting table just seems to put prospective clients over the edge ;-)

So, if you think your game is up to the challenge, put together a team, come try to take the bird from us and support a great cause. Maybe you can give the Turkey Trophy a home for the next year and see what sort of financial boost it brings to your finances.

Jay Dryden

Dryden, Bound & Associates

The Condemnation of Lying

I was sitting across the desk from a friend, who had just failed his drug test.  His urine test had come up positive for opiates, but he denied his guilt.  He insisted the test was wrong.  So we tried again and got the same result.  He accused our batch of tests to be in error, so we tested a number of other residents from the same box.  They all passed.  He still maintained his innocence.  So we tested him two more times and came to the same result.  He had used opiates which was a clear violation of our residential recovery program’s policy.  What did he have to say for himself?  He was innocent, but we and our tests were guilty?

I had known this friend very well for over a year.  I urged him in the face of the preponderance of evidence, be honest!  He swore his innocence.  As I urged and begged and pleaded for his character and benefit to confess, he refused.  As I searched my heart and his to discover why he couldn’t get honest, I realized something about confession and honesty.  We will only admit our sins to those we believe will not harm us with the information.  The reality is that when we lie, we not only condemn ourselves as liars, but those we lie to as harmers.  That in a tragic way, we are telling those we are lying to that I don’t trust you.  That I am not confident in or comfortable with your character.  So that in a very real way, our inability to be honest with another is our condemnation of their character.

As I pondered that thought, I reflected on scripture.  I was in the process of teaching Joel, so I considered Joel 2:12,13 in which God is urging his people to repent with the famous words, “Rend your heart and not your garment.”  But God’s urging toward confession and repentance was based upon his character.  He states, “Return to the LORD, your God, for he is gracious and merciful, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love; and he relents over disaster.”  The basis God uses to call his people home is his character of grace and love.  The promise of his reception is what draws out our open admissions.

So maybe the real reason we don’t confess our sins and repent often is because of our belief in the character of the one we must confess to.  Therefore could it be that our maintaining a lie is truly our condemnation of another’s character.  We reveal our belief that their character is untrustworthy.

In I John 1:9, God urges us to confess our sins to him because of his character, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

Tom Reynolds

The Conversion of a Relationship

I recently had the honor of performing a wedding of two individuals who I had association with through their struggle with addiction.  The woman I had helped through a group we started through our church about 15 years ago.  She had come and sought teaching, counseling, and life assistance.  But then over the years we had lost touch with one another.  The man had graduated “The Way” about 3 ½ years ago.

They had both finally come to a point of mutual sobriety in their lives and wanted to commit themselves as Christians to one another as husband and wife.

As we celebrated their union on the front lawn of the groom’s parents on a beautiful Sunday afternoon, I reflected on the conversion of their relationship.  As addicts, we live for ourselves.  Every relationship is about what I can get out of someone else.  But in spiritual Christ-centered sobriety, it’s about what I have received from the Lord and what I can give to all those in my life.

I emphasized three key points of relationship conversion that they were committing to that memorable afternoon.

  1. After having pursued each other for their own personal satisfaction, they were now committing their relationship in marriage to honor and serve God.  They were committing themselves to the relationship that God had established at the beginning of creation with the words, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)
  2. They were committing themselves to serve one another under the biblical instructions from Ephesians 5:21-33. That the wife should express respect for her husband in submission and that the husband should love his wife as Christ has loved him.
  3. They were establishing a relationship that just wasn’t committed to serving each other, but also the community.  They would establish a home of Christ-centered service to their family and friends and follow the example of Christ who, “did not come to be served, but to serve and give His life as a ransom for many.”  (Mark 10:45)

Their wedding was about the celebration of the freedom from bondage that they had discovered in Christ.  And that this new freedom was not given as an opportunity for self-indulgence, “but through love serve one another.” (Galatians 5:13)

There is no greater joy than to see God’s amazing handiwork in taking two individuals and converting them into one redeemed couple.  A true relationship conversion.

Tom Reynolds